There is a lot to like about social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Tik Tok. They bring people together from around the world and can transmit information much faster than traditional media. But if you say or do the wrong thing online, it can haunt you for years.
This is especially true when it comes to getting divorced. It can be tempting to vent on social media when your ex is driving you crazy. But if you aren’t careful, you can damage your financial interests and potentially cost yourself time with your children. Your ex and their lawyer could be watching for signs you are hiding money or acting like an unfit parent. They could take your posts out of context and use them as evidence against you in negotiations or in the courtroom.
The safest thing you can do is stay off social media until your divorce is final. But if you can’t do that, here are four tips for using social media smartly during the divorce process.
- Avoid saying anything negative about your ex, especially if you have kids together. If your children see posts attacking your co-parent, it can upset and confuse them.
- Put your privacy settings to the maximum levels so that only accounts you trust can see your postings. Review your friend lists and delete anyone who might be a “spy” for your ex. Meanwhile, ask your friends and relatives not to tag you in their posts so you can keep total control of what images and videos of you are out there.
- Don’t post intimate photos or videos from your marriage. This could be considered “revenge porn” under Maryland law and get you into serious legal trouble.
- Avoid discussing the details of your divorce, even if you and your ex have already agreed on things like child custody and property division.
If you are unsure that something could hurt your case, think twice about posting it. No social media post is worth an ugly, dragged-out divorce.